Yesterday I received an email that made me sigh and shake my head. Apparently my weight is not limited to the physical, I weigh heavy on some people's minds too. Whoever said "out of sight; out of mind" must have led a boring reclusive life. Obviously he or she did not have my family.
It used to be that I could be baited into protest of my innocence as to whatever it was thought I had / had not done, or of the label slapped upon me.
Then I wised up and stopped reacting to frantic people.
I am comfortable being me. While basic common courtesy is appreciated, I have no need for other people's acceptance or permission. I am me.
Sad to say my initial response to yesterday's email was "here we go again" and I geared up to set the record straight. However, doing so would be regrettable. For me it would be a huge step backwards. I perfer to keep my feet moving forward.
When I prepared to embark upon my sojourn I realized mental baggage had to go. I had to let go of the codependant doctrine and accept me for who I am. Applying Feng Shui to my mental house was not that easy. There were many shadows and echos of fears and resentments. Odd how comfortable these once had felt even though they were killing me. I guess it's sort of like hoarding. I had collected fears and resentments because negative emotion / actions was all that was being offered.
I have been working deligently for several years now to open my mental house to sunlight and fresh air. The last thing I desire is to fall back into old habits.
So in response to the email - thank you for thinking of me. As for the question you raised - please feel free to go with whatever conclusion(s) make you comfortable. Opinions are subjective. In actuality judgments reflect the judge. I will not revisit the past or answer for someone else's point of view. Been there, done that; I've moved on.
I am comfortable being me.